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Friday, March 27, 2009

Good Enough for Who?

What do we do when our good enough isn't good enough for someone else? When giving our all just doesn't meet the minimum standard someone else has for us?
I've been on both ends of this dilemna. Recently. I was forced to end a marriage I desperately wanted to work, because his good enough wasn't even close to my minimum standard of good enough.

And I left a former landlord unhappy because for the first time I had to move alone, and clean up messes that I didn't make. Messes that I wasn't physically capable of handling. Messes that have made my previous landlord very unhappy.

I feel sick for making someone else's life so hard. Sad that I could measure up to his reasonable expectations.

So, where do I go from here? I have standards that must be met in my life. Others do as well. How can we all make our lives intertwine gracefully when it's so hard to meet all these expectations.

I guess there are times when good enough just isn't. And we have to be ok with that and move on.